Nigerian actress and media personality, Toke Makinwa, has sparked conversation with her candid views on infidelity and the differences between men and women when it comes to cheating in relationships. Speaking during a recent episode of her popular podcast, Toke Moments, the movie star claimed that women cheat more than men, though they do so in a more discreet manner.
Makinwa, who is well-known for her forthright opinions on love, relationships, and social issues, said that society often perceives cheating as primarily a male behaviour, but her experience and observation suggest otherwise. According to her, women can also cheat and often do so without drawing attention.
“It is easier for women to cheat than men,” Makinwa said during the podcast. “Men have to spend money, efforts, and time to cheat. But we, women, we are the ones receiving. It is easier for women to cheat, and many know how to hide it.”
Her statements come amid a long-standing debate in society about gender roles and morality in relationships. Infidelity has historically been seen as a predominantly male trait, with societal norms often giving men more leniency than women. Makinwa, however, argued that this perception is outdated and unfair.
“Why are we making these men feel so special as if it is only them?” she asked. Makinwa said her views are not meant to encourage cheating, but rather to highlight that both genders are capable of unfaithfulness.
The actress also explained that this understanding has influenced her personal perspective on relationships. She revealed that cheating is not necessarily a dealbreaker for her. “As I grow older, I realised that it is not just men who can cheat,” she said. “Cheating is not a dealbreaker for me, but it comes with a caveat.”
Makinwa further shared her thoughts on why women may be more discreet in their infidelity. She suggested that many women who do not cheat do so not because they are incapable, but because they possess qualities such as strength or self-control. “A woman not cheating is not because she cannot cheat, it is probably because she has one thing you lack, it is strength,” she said.
Her discussion also touched on the idea of “work boyfriends” — a term often used to describe casual or emotional relationships that women may have outside their primary partnership. She pointed out that such arrangements make it easier for women to engage in infidelity without the same level of effort that men might have to expend.
Makinwa’s comments have reignited conversations on social media and in the entertainment industry about fidelity, gender double standards, and expectations in relationships. While some social media users praised her honesty and bravery in addressing a taboo topic, others criticized her views as controversial or provocative.
“While Toke Makinwa’s statements may seem bold, they highlight an important discussion about honesty, transparency, and gender expectations in relationships,” Dr. Adeyemi said. “It’s not about encouraging cheating; it’s about understanding human behaviour and the dynamics of modern relationships.”
In recent years, conversations around gender equality and relationship dynamics have grown more open in Nigeria. Celebrities, social commentators, and media personalities have increasingly used platforms such as podcasts, talk shows, and social media to discuss personal experiences, challenge stereotypes, and offer advice to the public.
Toke Makinwa herself has been a vocal figure in these discussions. Beyond her acting career, she has built a media brand focused on lifestyle, relationships, and women empowerment. Her willingness to openly discuss sensitive topics, including love, heartbreak, and personal growth, has earned her both admiration and criticism.
The episode of Toke Moments where Makinwa shared her views on cheating has quickly gone viral, with fans debating her statements online. Many commented on her candidness, appreciating her effort to break the stigma around discussing women’s behaviour in relationships.
However, some critics argued that her remarks could be misinterpreted as condoning infidelity. Responding to similar concerns during the podcast, Makinwa clarified that she is not encouraging anyone to cheat. “No. As I grow older, I realised that it is not just men who can cheat. Cheating is not a dealbreaker for me, but it comes with a caveat,” she reiterated.
The discussion also sheds light on broader cultural issues related to trust, loyalty, and societal expectations in Nigerian relationships. Historically, male infidelity has often been normalized, while women who engage in similar behaviour face social stigma. By challenging this narrative, Makinwa is contributing to a growing dialogue about fairness, equality, and transparency in relationships.
Relationship experts argue that understanding and communication are crucial to healthy partnerships. They stress that infidelity, regardless of gender, can cause emotional pain and long-term consequences if not addressed properly. Trust-building, honest communication, and mutual respect are key to maintaining strong and lasting relationships.
Makinwa’s bold perspective adds to ongoing debates in the country about modern love, gender roles, and personal empowerment. Her message resonates with many who believe in honesty and self-awareness in relationships, while also highlighting the need to critically examine societal double standards.