Nigerian comedian and actor Okechukwu Anthony Onyegbule, popularly known as Okey Bakassi, has stirred controversy with his views on marriage in Africa.
The comedian declared that polygamy is better suited for the African context, arguing that monogamous marriages are failing.
Bakassi made these statements during an appearance on the Honest Bunch Podcast.
“Polygamy Is Best for Africa” – Okey Bakassi
According to Okey Bakassi, many people in monogamous marriages are merely pretending to be happy.
“Forget all the lip services that we pay to polygamy here,” he said.
“I still think that polygamy is the best form of marriage for Africa.”
The comedian went further to say, “Monogamy is not working. We are pretending.”
Monogamy vs. Polygamy: A Question of Choice
Bakassi questioned the rationale behind monogamy, suggesting it restricts personal freedom.
He compared the two systems, saying, “Now, what’s the difference between polygamy and monogamy?”
“Polygamy says you can marry two people at the same time.”
“Monogamy says you cannot marry them at the same time; you have to let one go.”
He then asked a thought-provoking question, “What if you don’t want to let one go?”
A Candid Conversation on African Marriage
Bakassi’s comments have reignited discussions on marriage systems in Africa.
Some argue that polygamy aligns with African traditions, while others maintain that monogamy promotes stability.
Bakassi’s remarks challenge long-standing cultural and religious norms that often uphold monogamy as the ideal.
Mixed Reactions from Nigerians
Bakassi’s views have drawn mixed reactions from Nigerians, with social media abuzz with debates.
Supporters of his stance believe he is addressing an uncomfortable truth about relationships in modern Africa.
“Polygamy is part of our heritage, and we shouldn’t shy away from it,” one social media user commented.
Others have criticized Bakassi for promoting what they see as outdated practices.
“Monogamy teaches discipline and respect in marriage,” another user argued.
The Comedian’s Take on Pretending
Okey Bakassi’s assertion that many married people are pretending to be happy struck a chord with some listeners.
“Marriage is not a one-size-fits-all situation,” he said.
He suggested that societal pressure often forces people to stick to relationships that do not work.
“Why do we act like there’s only one way to live and love?” he asked.
Polygamy in African Culture
Polygamy has deep roots in many African societies, where it is often seen as a way to strengthen family ties and economic alliances.
In some communities, having multiple wives is viewed as a sign of wealth and status.
However, critics argue that polygamy can lead to inequality and neglect within families.
Religious influences, particularly from Christianity and Islam, have also played a significant role in shaping views on marriage.
While some denominations permit polygamy, others strictly endorse monogamy.
Monogamy: A Western Influence?
Many critics of monogamy in Africa argue that it is a Western import.
They claim that the concept was imposed during colonial times, displacing traditional African practices.
