Kemi Olunloyo, the daughter of the late former Oyo State Governor, Dr. Victor Omololu Olunloyo, has declared that she is no longer part of the Olunloyo family, making it clear that she will not be accepting condolences following the passing of her father. The controversial social media personality took to her Facebook page to share her feelings about the family and the events leading up to her father’s death on Sunday, April 6, 2025.
In a video shared on her Facebook, Kemi Olunloyo openly rejected any sympathy for her late father, stating that anyone wishing to offer condolences should direct them to her father’s official Facebook page, rather than approaching her personally. “I am uploading video statements on my father’s death on TikTok. I am NOT part of the Olunloyo family anymore, and I told you in 2024 that I will never return to Nigeria even if my parents died,” Kemi said.
Her response comes as a shock to many, considering that Dr. Victor Olunloyo was a well-known mathematician, politician, and elder statesman in the country. Despite his public stature, Kemi has painted a picture of a deeply troubled family life marked by emotional and physical abuse, occult practices, and long-standing rifts.
In her post, Kemi recounted painful memories from her childhood, alleging that her father’s actions caused irreparable harm to their family. “I am not accepting anybody’s condolences because I am not condoling with anybody,” she firmly stated, adding that those wishing to mourn her father’s passing should do so through his own Facebook page. Kemi claimed that her father, whom many revered for his contributions to society, was a different person at home. “My father, Victor Omololu Olunloyo, is two different people. He was one person to the world; he was another person to the family. My father destroyed our family unit,” she said.
She further detailed how her father allegedly tortured her and her siblings emotionally and physically during their upbringing. According to Kemi, her father marketed her as his “favourite daughter” to the public, but behind closed doors, she felt used and manipulated. “My father used me for a lot of things. He took advantage of my own positive energies,” she stated.
While she acknowledged that her father had done some positive things for the family, Kemi also opened up about his involvement in occult practices, a fact she had previously called him out on during his 80th birthday. “My father was into ‘juju’ heavily. My father was into occult practices,” she revealed. She recalled that after confronting him about this, her father reportedly sought spiritual redemption by meeting with Pastor Enoch Adeboye to become born again.
One of the most heart-wrenching parts of Kemi’s narrative was the tragic story of her brother, Tayo, who passed away in 2021. Kemi recalled that Tayo, who was once in a car accident with her, lost nearly half of his brain and was paralyzed for 43 years. She expressed her belief that Tayo’s potential as a brilliant mathematician was ruined by the events caused by her father. “They killed Tayo; they killed my brother’s child. Tayo would have been a great Mathematician. They ruined his destiny,” she lamented.
She further added that the entire family’s troubles began with the marriage of her father to Ronke Sonaike, who later became her stepmother. According to Kemi, Ronke’s pregnancy with her father led to a rift between him and Kemi’s mother, who had married an intellectual man she looked up to. Kemi claimed that Ronke’s presence in their home contributed to a series of conflicts that worsened over time, with her father eventually becoming a polygamist.
Kemi’s narrative took a darker turn as she alleged that her stepmother, Ronke, had once tried to poison her mother, an act that reportedly landed her mother in the hospital. The accusations did not stop there. Kemi claimed that Ronke once put a miniature coffin under the bed of her son, Olumide, accusing Kemi’s mother of doing so. “Ronke said it’s my mom that put it there,” Kemi stated.
Despite the troubling family dynamics, Kemi said she was not in contact with her stepmother in the years leading up to her father’s death. She revealed that, according to her older sister, no one had access to her father after his stroke in 2021. “Towards the end of Daddy’s life, nobody had access to him after the 2021 stroke. They couldn’t talk to Daddy on the phone because Ronke did not give anybody access,” Kemi explained.
Kemi Olunloyo’s latest comments highlight the deep division and dysfunction within the Olunloyo family, which appears to have been marked by emotional and psychological scars. Kemi’s refusal to mourn her father or accept condolences underscores the complexity of family relationships, especially when deep-rooted trauma has been inflicted over the years.
While many Nigerians may have expected Kemi to honour her father’s memory despite their differences, her decision to publicly distance herself from the Olunloyo family speaks volumes about the pain and resentment she feels. Her public rejection of condolences may also be a call for understanding and a plea for others to acknowledge the hidden struggles that many families face behind closed doors.
In Nigerian culture, the expectation is often that children will mourn their parents’ death, regardless of past conflicts or grievances. Kemi’s refusal to follow this tradition challenges these cultural norms and raises important questions about how society views family loyalty and forgiveness. For Kemi, mourning her father’s passing is not just a matter of familial duty but a deeply personal journey shaped by years of unresolved trauma.
Her story has ignited debates about forgiveness, family loyalty, and the impact of abuse on familial bonds. While some may criticize her for not honouring her father in death, others sympathize with the emotional burden she carries as a result of the painful experiences she endured growing up.
