Popular Nigerian media personality and actress, Toke Makinwa, has stirred controversy and sparked wide discussions on social media after revealing she would consider being in a polygamous marriage. Makinwa made the bold statement during the latest episode of her podcast, Toke Moments, where she opened up about her views on love, relationships, and emotional support.
In the episode, the 40-year-old broadcaster admitted she is at a stage in her life where she would be comfortable becoming a second, third, fourth, or even fifth wife, as long as the relationship brings her peace and companionship.
“In all honesty, at this point in my life, if I have the opportunity to be the second, third, fourth, or fifth wife, I will take it,” she said.
Her comment has triggered strong reactions across Nigeria, a country where polygamy, while legally permitted under customary and Islamic laws, remains a hot-button issue especially in urban and Christian-dominated communities.
Makinwa, who is known for her successful media career, her outspoken personality, and luxury lifestyle, explained that while she cherishes her independence and career accomplishments, the constant pressure of leadership in all areas of her life has left her emotionally exhausted.
“I am the boss everywhere and that could be tiring,” she shared. “You feel like you need someone to lean on. Someone that could decide what is for dinner. Must it be me?”
Her statement reflects a sentiment that many professional women may relate to — the silent weight of constantly having to make decisions, manage households, run businesses, and remain emotionally strong. For Makinwa, the idea of polygamy appears to offer emotional relief, partnership, and a break from the need to always be “in charge.”
Toke Makinwa is no stranger to public attention. She gained fame as a radio presenter on Rhythm FM and later became one of Nigeria’s most recognisable media figures, thanks to her social media presence, fashion brand, and roles in Nollywood.
She was previously married to fitness coach Maje Ayida in 2014. However, their union ended in 2017 after a highly publicised separation over allegations of infidelity and betrayal. The divorce and its fallout were widely covered in the media and also featured in Makinwa’s 2016 memoir, *On Becoming*, where she shared deeply personal experiences from the marriage.
Since then, Makinwa has remained single and focused on her career, growing her influence both in entertainment and fashion. Her podcast, Toke Moments, has become a platform where she shares unfiltered views on relationships, identity, career, and pop culture.
Following the release of the podcast episode, Nigerians took to social media to react. While some expressed shock or disapproval, others praised her honesty and courage to speak her truth in a society that often holds women to strict moral and relationship standards.
Many women, in particular, related to her sentiments about leadership fatigue and emotional support. Some commenters even said her view on polygamy reflects a practical and realistic approach to modern relationships.
However, critics argued that endorsing polygamy reinforces patriarchal structures that continue to oppress women. They warned that such public statements by influential figures like Makinwa could normalise unequal relationship dynamics.
“Toke Makinwa saying she would gladly be the fifth wife just shows how frustrating being a ‘strong independent woman’ can get. We all need support, but polygamy is not the solution.”
“I like how she’s being real. Everyone wants peace of mind and companionship. If polygamy gives you that, why not?”
In Nigeria, polygamy is legal under customary and Islamic laws, particularly in the northern and some southwestern parts of the country. Under Islamic law, a man is allowed to marry up to four wives if he can treat them equally. However, under Nigeria’s civil law, monogamy is the only legally recognised marriage system.
Polygamy has long been part of many African traditions. Yet, in urban centres and among Christian populations, monogamous relationships are more commonly promoted and expected, especially among the elite and educated class.
Makinwa’s statement has, therefore, reignited conversations about the relevance of polygamy in today’s society — particularly for women who are successful, independent, and looking for companionship without necessarily fitting into traditional marriage expectations.
Toke Makinwa’s openness also challenges the long-standing cultural pressure on women to be “the only wife” or to equate self-worth with exclusive romantic attention. Her comments suggest a growing shift in how relationships are viewed in Nigeria, particularly by urban women who are financially independent and emotionally self-aware.
By openly stating her willingness to consider a non-traditional form of partnership, Makinwa may have unintentionally become a voice for a segment of women who feel the same but are unable to express it due to societal judgment.
This is not the first time she has spoken controversially on relationship matters. Over the years, she has advocated for women to put themselves first, be financially empowered, and not tolerate disrespect in relationships. This latest statement adds a new, and more controversial, layer to her public persona.
Whether one agrees with her or not, there is no doubt that Toke Makinwa has once again succeeded in starting a national conversation. Her statements have sparked deep reflections on love, companionship, independence, and the changing dynamics of marriage in Nigeria.
As the debate continues, one thing is clear — relationships in modern Nigeria are evolving. The traditional model of one-man-one-wife may still be dominant, but more Nigerians, especially women, are beginning to question long-held beliefs and expectations in pursuit of peace, happiness, and emotional balance.
For now, Toke Makinwa remains firm in her truth. In her own words:
“At this point, I just want peace. If I find it as the fifth wife, so be it.”
